Book on building foundations for Self Esteem now available
Finally, after ten years of developing and fine tuning a model of child emotional development, I have just published a book: “Self Worth BEFORE Self Esteem”, ‘What every parent must know about building the foundations of Self Esteem’. The book is available on http://www.amazon.com as an ebook and in paperback.
In addition, embedded within the book there is a guide for readers interested in ‘self-help’. To help parents understand how the subliminal messages in what they say and do or don’t say and don’t do actually affect their children, readers are invited to apply the model to their own childhood and reflect on their own experiences and how the subliminal messages they received from their parents have influenced ‘who they are’.
This model is a non-conventional approach and may be regarded as a bit controversial since it does not support current social ideology or feminist dogma.
The CARRP-ALIAS model in this website and book is a guide for parents wanting to build healthy emotional foundations in their children.
So, what is the relevance for adults?
If children have ‘faulty’ emotional foundations laid down in childhood, or they are ‘emotionally damaged’, when they grow into adults, these turn into ‘unresolved emotional issues’, commonly known as ‘stuff’. But, the good news is that because of the plasticity of the brain, emotional foundations in the subconscious mind can be ‘rebuilt’ and damage ‘repaired’, using hypnotherapeutic techniques and the ‘stuff’ gets resolved.
How can ‘unresolved stuff’ affect your life as an adult?
Example #1: Do you keep making the same mistakes in relationships? Do you keep getting into crappy relationships and believe or hope that ‘this time’ it will ‘be different’? But it never is! Why?
An analogy: You can watch a DVD of ‘The Titanic’ a hundred times, and no matter how much you might wish that it could have a happy ending, Jack is going to drown EVERY time, because it is a recording and the ending is ‘fixed’ and cannot ever change. Likewise, when we ‘replay’ the ‘personal drama/horror’ relationship movie programmed in our subconscious mind, we expect or hope that ‘this time, things will be better’ or ‘this time, we will get it right’. Don’t we wish! But, like ‘The Titanic’, when we press the ‘replay’ button for that personal relationship movie we play in our subconscious mind, the outcome is ‘fixed’ and as much as we wish, it is always going to turn out the same way – crappy, dysfunctional, stressful unhappy and eventually you can just end up getting depressed. We may replace the ‘romantic lead’ and expect this will give us a different outcome, but the ‘casting criteria’ for that role remains the same, so although for each ‘replay’, the person filling this role has a different face, it is still the same character, merely in a different guise - and the role we play is still the same character.
The solution is to delete that old dysfunctional movie in your subconscious mind and program in a new one you know will have a better outcome – one that has a changed criteria for your character and consequently a changed criteria for the role of ‘romantic lead’ playing opposite you,.
PS: You will need tech support to delete that old movie and program in a new one! That is what I do! Tech support for your subconscious mind!