For most of my adult and adolescent clients, I find that regardless of the ‘presenting problem’, we need to address childhood issues because they often underpin the ‘current problem’, either directly as in unresolved emotional issues with a parent or indirectly, via patterns of dysfunctional thinking, attitudes, self beliefs, reactions and coping style that create vulnerability to get into adult situations that are dysfunctional and tend to be repetitive.
When I refer to childhood issues, I do not necessarily mean abuse and violence. Dysfunctional life patterns can be ‘learnt’ in homes where parents love their children and want the best for them and do ‘the best they know how’. However, even when well-intentioned, parents frequently fail to meet children’s emotional developmental needs and may even violate these needs – simply because they are unaware of what these needs are so are unaware they are violating or failing to meet them. (To make matters worse for current parents and their children, parents are being misled by government parenting and family policies embracing civil libertarian and feminist ideology which ignore child developmental psychology because child emotional needs conflict with ideology). Information on the emotional developmental needs, relevant parenting to meet these needs and long term consequences of faulty parenting is available in the book I have written, referred to on this website.
These childhood issues represent ‘learned stuff’ and the good news is that whatever has been learned is amenable to ‘rewiring’ using hypnotherapy. The individual issues are encapsulated in ‘child ego states’ which are ‘locked in a time warp’ so although the individual is now an adult and their life totally different, the ‘child ego states’ believe that life continues as it did in childhood and the past issues are current and ongoing, hence dysfunctional learning that occurred then is responsible for dysfunctional emotional reactions and patterns of behaviour are repeated as an adult. The good news is that these ‘child ego states’ can be easily contacted directly in hypnosis. Historical memory for factual events cannot be changed, but that is not necessary. The problematic stuff for the adult is based on emotions, perceptions and ‘faulty’ learning and that can be changed.
My approach in hypnotherapy is using Ego State Therapy adapted to accommodate my CAARP-ALIAS model of emotional development and I have found this combination to be a powerful took for therapeutic change in emotional and cognitive restructuring.
Two-Day Intensive Therapy
For potential clients who may be aware that they have unresolved childhood ‘stuff’ that is responsible for repeated dysfunctional patterns in their life and would like to visit me for therapy but live some distance away, perhaps interstate, so think that therapy is not an option – I have treated interstate clients who were so motivated as to fly to the Sunshine Coast (S-E Qld) specifically for therapy. We conducted intensive therapy over two days with positive results. So, this is an option for the strongly motivated!
As a plausible alternative, combine therapy with a holiday on the beautiful Sunshine Coast. People travel to Thailand for dental work and cosmetic surgery, so why not travel to Queensland for hypnotherapy?
Why not use Skype? First, I live in a hinterland ‘black spot’. Second, the therapeutic relationship between therapist and client is essential for a successful outcome and since I am a hypnotherapist rather than what I refer to as a hypnotechnician, I believe that this is more effective working together ‘in person’. There are also practical considerations such as clients in hypnosis often speak so very, very softly that it is difficult for the therapist to hear.
However, regardless of what ever therapeutic path a client chooses, any will be successful to the degree that the subconscious mind is accessed and real changes achieved there.